How do you define beauty?
Why is it so much easier for us to find beauty in other people and even in things but so many of us truly struggle with recognizing our own beauty? Why do so many people waste time and energy (not to mention money) trying to be someone else? When we fixate on our own outer beauty we miss the true blessing of being who we are.
When I was a young girl I always felt ugly. Constantly, I would compare myself to others who I was taught were "beautiful". I could never see myself there. Of course, I would rarely see anyone who fit that description. I wouldn't just compare myself either. But I was much harder on me than on anyone else. Thankfully, I grew up and out grew!
Life taught me the true definition of beauty. I learned about true beauty from the wonders of nature. I learned about true beauty from the loving hearts of those who showed me kindness and compassion, I learned about true beauty while taking my mother to radiation treatments, I learned about true beauty by seeing the world with my most open heart instead of with a societally narrow vision. I don't watch television anymore and I am very particular about what media I take in. I define beauty for myself.! And guess what? Now I see beauty everywhere!
The difficult challenge still lies in finding it in myself. I am amazed at how many women have this same issue. I was in a store recently when a woman was complaining about her "sagging neck and her aging face and body"and she told the clerk "never grow old". Seriously? Never grow old... what kind of crappy advice is that? I could not stand to hear her continue. I interrupted and said I was "older" and proud of it and she should be too! I thought we were about the same age. Turns out she was a bit older. I told her that whenever she felt old she should remember that someone my age thought we were the same age. She seemed very pleased by that thought. But I felt sad to think that a woman could have a healthy, younger appearance like that, have nice, clean clothes, two eyes that work, teeth, arms and legs, could speak, and all she could use her voice to say was "I am not beautiful"... and why? Because you are not young? How messed up are we? Beauty is not an age thing! The association of beauty and youth is the worst part of our messed up, brain washed perception of it all! True beauty emanates from those who live in gratitude ...period. Have you ever noticed the difference between someone who looks angry and someone smiling? It's incredible!
I have only recently started to see glimpses of the depth of my own true beauty. I see it in the way I love my friends and family, I see it in my compassion. I see it in my deep respect and appreciation for all living things. Looking deeply into the goodness inside of each of us and trying to live life in a way that cultivates more of that, makes you feel beautiful. Because you are!
I hope we are beginning to embrace a deeper sense of what true beauty is about. That we can let go of what we have been wrongly taught and open our hearts and our eyes to truly see ourselves. Beauty is not about something we have. It's about something that we are.
Now is the perfect time to embrace the immense beauty that we are each capable of manifesting and begin spreading it! As we do, we will attract and illuminate it in each other.
So, okay... here goes... I am beautiful.
Wow. Even writing these words I find the brain washed little part of me creeping in and worrying that someone reading will criticize me for daring to think of myself as beautiful in any way. But honestly, that is the type of shit that holds us back from being a world of beautiful people... truly beautiful... not that fake or made up crap.
Truth time begins now! If you are sharing your authentic self, and you are offering loving kindness and compassion to others... You are beautiful!
Own it! Share it! Live it!